Drink Less, Live More

Sometimes I work with clients who have been successful in controlling their weight, but then find themselves drinking more than they want. It’s a fascinating concept, and makes complete sense because desire can be transferable. Desire is a learned behavior. We have a thought - like - I had a long day - which makes us desire something like a cookie or glass of wine in order to feel better.  We reward that desire with a concentrated dopamine hit and after awhile it just seems to be an unconscious occurrence.  The concentrated hit can be in the form of flour, sugar, alcohol, and the cycle eventually makes the brain think we need the hit in order to survive, and becomes a habit. I also have clients that wish they could lose those last couple of pounds if only they could cut back on drinking.   In either case - I want you to know,  nothing has gone wrong.   This is buffering at its finest - escape from what is going on and not wanting to feel p...

May I have all my people pleasers step forward - this is for you.  I think so  many of us care what others think - and often  to the point that you do and act in ways you really don’t want to - but you think if you do they will like you. Here’s what I’ve learned - it doesn’t matter what you do - people are always going to have their own thoughts about you. And if you don’t believe me - think about this -  Have you ever been given a compliment you didn’t really believe or accept because you didn’t think you looked that good?  Have you ever been in an argument and the other person apologized but you didn’t think they were serious and remained angry? Or maybe been on the other side where you apologized and the other person was still angry? So you did and said what you thought was going to make them feel differently - but they didn’t - because they still had their own same thoughts. Not everybody likes peaches right? You could be the juiciest peach ...