Drink Less, Live More

Do you show up as the best version of yourself, or do you put on a mask as a means of protection? Thoughts like - I'm not skinny enough, not smart enough, not good enough, not powerful enough, not certain enough - all come from a scarcity mindset. We have these thoughts and compare ourselves to others, but this mindset doesn't serve us, and therefore we don't show up as our best selves. We hide behind things like business, modesty, or even disengage completely in order to protect ourselves. We hide because we don't want to be seen as vulnerable, and in doing so we miss out on opportunities for growth and change. Social Scientist and author Brene Brown discusses the concepts of vulnerability Wholeheartedness in her book Daring Greatly. At the core of Wholeheartedness, she says, is facing uncertainty, exposure, emotional risks and knowing that you are enough. Imagine having the thought you are enough? How would you feel? What would you dare to do? How wo...

Welcome to this week’s Mindful Weighs Wednesday! Today I “weigh in” on self doubt, and the importance of believing before you see. Enjoy! Wayne Dyer says, “I will see it when I believe it”. Most of us operate on the opposite thought, and it can be quite challenging to achieve something if you don’t believe it to be possible. We constantly sabotage ourselves in accomplishing our dreams, and especially where weight loss is concerned. Your belief system is creating your life. The fantastic news is that as a human you have the ability to manage your mind, and create beliefs that serve you. You can choose to keep a crappy belief system, or replace it with a good one which will give you the results you deserve. It will seem odd at first, and you must continuously practice the new thoughts in order to replace the ones you’ve been telling yourself for years. Once you begin to dismantle the thoughts you’ve had and create new ones, your brain will want to tell you things like - that’s a t...

It’s not your significant others job to make you happy. Say what? Yes, you heard me correctly - it’s never somebody else’s job to make you happy. We were never given a class about how to be an emotional adult, most of us are stuck in a state of emotional childhood, and even more of you may have no idea what I am talking about. Most of you reading this consider yourselves adults. You may all look like adults and “act” like adults, but in actuality you are functioning as emotional children, therefore locking you in a state of blame. Emotional childhood is when grown adults have not matured past childhood in terms of managing their emotions. It is when we do not take responsibility for how we feel. We blame the ex-husband, our boss, the government, the economy, the weather, or our childhood for how we feel, how we act, and what our results are. Why on earth are we willing to give others such an enormous amount of power? The fact is, we are in complete control of what we...

Welcome to this weeks Mindful Weighs Wednesday Weigh In! How often do you say “I feel fat”? So many people repeat this statement without a second thought. I argue, not even knowing you, that this is a false statement. “Fat” is not a feeling. Fat is a belief. So if you are not feeling fat - what are you truly feeling? Have you ever taken the time to be the watcher of your thoughts and belief systems? Try it - you will be fascinated. We tell ourselves something like “I will always be overweight” and for years we believe it as truth. Usually we also have supporting beliefs such as I am weak, I am lazy, life is hard, my metabolism is messed up. No wonder you are having a hard time - you believe all of this! Who would you be without these thoughts? If all your beliefs were the exact opposite, how would you feel, and how would you act? If you believed you deserved success beyond your wildest dreams how would you act? The truth is, you can choose to change your beliefs, ...

I posted a picture yesterday with clear differences between two girls. Many answers were acceptable, but THE biggest difference between the two is the THOUGHTS they each had at the time of the picture, therefore creating different results. I know, because they are both me. The one on the left was never athletic - never made the cheerleading team - ever, and was typically the last one chosen for any gym class team. She thought eating Pop Tarts, Twinkies, and Devil Dogs brought her joy. The one on the right is choosing thoughts to evolve, and bring joy in “mindful weighs”. When we begin to recognize the importance of our thoughts we can decide which ones serve our purpose in life. Let me tell you a story with examples, and then offer an amazing tool to help you run towards your dreams. I’ve completed multiple half marathons, but yesterday was the first one without family or friends by my side. Honestly it wasn't intended that way - initially we were a party of 5 - but ...

Welcome to the first “Mindful Weighs Wednesday Weigh In”. Here I will take the time each Wednesday to “weigh in” on some aspect of weight loss in order to bring you more “Mindful Weighs” to lose the pounds you desire. So many people tell me they love food and believe it solves a problem in their life. Food makes them feel better, and more at ease - but I want to let you know that food doesn’t care one ounce for you - so what do we do about this relationship disconnect? Why is it, that we put so much pressure on food to make us happy, provide us with comfort, and supply us with happiness? All the reasons we hear sound so good - and sometimes they may serve a purpose, but for the most part its all a mind scam, and now, over the past 30 years, we have created tremendous overhunger and overdesire for food. Let’s begin by looking at how culture and psychology sabotage this relationship. Everything in our culture revolves around food. We want to see old friends - and we plan...

It’s so interesting how we look at circumstances in our lives as facts, yet most of the time they are simply thoughts. I talk to so many people who want to share their stories and believe all of it as truth. What I want to do is point out areas that are thoughts, and show them they can decide to keep the thought if it serves their purpose in life, or exchange it for a new one that will. Let me help break it down. Circumstances in our lives are the things that occur in the world around us. They are things we do not have control over, and can not directly change. They are facts that can be agreed upon in the court of law. Examples may be weather and other peoples behavior. Thoughts are sentences that run through our minds. We choose thoughts about the circumstances in our lives. Often times we stay safe, keep expectations low, and just recycle the same thoughts, keeping our lives status quo. Sometimes we are aware, but most often we don’t even realize we are having thou...