Feel Like A Thanksgiving Drink?

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Happy Thanksgiving! So yesterday we discussed the power in planning your food and sticking to your commitment. Today is the day - the food, the family - oh the fun. For some of you the family may drive you to drink - or so you think. I want to encourage you to pay attention to the triggers you find throughout the day which have you reaching for that extra glass, or two, of wine. The tools I share today are for people who want to drink a little less - not a solution to alcoholism, and not preaching abstinence - perhaps consider it the “Goldilocks” of drink plans.
The reason we do anything is because of how we think it will make us feel. So here are a couple of questions:
What motivates you into action?
Your feelings.
What causes your feelings?
Your thoughts.
Want to know a secret?
All feelings are available to you at any time - if your feelings come from your thoughts you get to choose the thoughts you want - fantastic news!
Now - we are mostly taught to avoid negative feelings and emotions. I’ve noticed clients do three main things when they feel uncomfortable - resist, react, avoid. How best to deal with Aunt Bertha’s interrogation of your life every Thanksgiving - grab a glass of Pinot G and avoid the feelings anxiety, frustration, overwhelm, etc. of course. (I don’t know if you have an Aunt Bertha, but since I have so many aunts it seemed like a safe name to use so nobody thought I was talking about them).
The first step in unlearning the desire to drink is to begin paying attention to your feelings. For so many of you this will be a challenge in itself. Paying attention to how you are thinking and how you are feeling is not something most people do, however it is super important in becoming better at experiencing your feelings. Start noticing the thoughts you have when you reach for the alcohol. Are you resisting or avoiding a feeling? Remember - a feeling is harmless. It is simply a vibration in the body, caused by a thought, and you can truly handle any feeling.
It will be much more useful for you to begin recognizing patterns vs immediate change. Be curious and compassionate with yourself and you start to build awareness. You may notice thoughts you don’t like - and that’s ok. The liberating part of all of this is you are responsible for your thoughts - you are in total control sister. Now start ensuring you like your reasons for doing what you do.
I have 2 free sessions remaining - if you want more customized free help reach out to me at mindfulweighs@gmail.com. Have an amazing Thanksgiving!

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