Believing You Can

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Welcome back to Thinking about Drinking Thursday, where we discuss tools to help you drink less. If you are a highly functioning gal who has decided to just cut back on your drinking - this is for you. If you have been saying you want to drink less, but haven't been successful I want to help by sharing some tools with you.
You want to cut back on drinking but do you really believe that is possible? A little less Pinot G - really? Yes, really. You will need to create new beliefs in order to accomplish this goal, and once you do so on purpose, you will blow your own mind.
First, become aware of what you currently believe - especially about yourself. You may not even realize sentences like - I can’t do that, I’m not good at this, or I’ve always had a hard time, are really just thoughts. These thoughts come from past beliefs, and are often confused as facts. Get ahold of these negative beliefs and notice how you feel when you think them. These thoughts will disempower your ability to create new thoughts, and a new future. You must recognize, and decide to change your mind, as you develop new beliefs to drink less.
If you want to create a new future you must create something that doesn’t exist from your past. You must create a new belief and you know what - you can believe whatever you want to believe! Shocking I know, but true. You can actually believe you are funny and amazing without the wine. It may be challenging at first because you have told yourself for so long its the wine that makes you so charming, but once you start practicing the new thought, repeating it, practicing, repeating, you may actually see how truly amazing you are!
It is important to also be aware at this point you will have two conflicting thoughts - one says you need the wine to be fun, the other says you are amazing on your own. So often people will just stay with the one they know because it is comfortable, and their lives never change. You must decide on purpose which one to believe.
I believe you are amazing no matter what - what do you believe?

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