How To Feel Better

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Welcome to Mindful Weighs Wednesday!
Imagine a world where you can be happy no matter what. For some of you that world would exist if you were able to lose weight, find the right mate, or land a new job. But imagine if none of those external controls were really the source of your happiness.
Why we do anything in this world is because we think it will make us feel a certain way - so how do you learn to feel better? Let’s take the example of being thin. Right now you may be someone who thinks you will feel happy when you lose your weight. If being thin equals happiness why are there are a lot of miserable thin people in the world? The difference is, the ideas going through each mind, creates the different feelings.
Really take the time to think about this. When you understand every emotion is available to you, you begin to feel empowered knowing you have the option to choose what serves you. You are in charge of how you feel. If you want to feel better, grab better thoughts. What you decide to think, will determine your feelings, because all thoughts cause your emotions.
Some of you may think reaching for the cookie is what makes you feel better. Your brain is built to seek pleasure, but you know after the temporary hit ends you actually feel less joy. Pay attention to your mind, manage your thoughts, deliberately practice these thoughts, and you will begin to feel better from within. Once you understand the difference between your mind and the external world you can find the thoughts that make you feel better every day!

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