Watch What You Say

Welcome to Mindful Weighs Wednesday!

I just left a dinner meeting where a young gal was telling a story about how she recently said a couple things during the day which she regretted. Interestingly, she began by telling us how she tends to notice these things each night when, before she goes to sleep she recounts all the things that went wrong throughout her day. I got to thinking …

How often do you serve yourself up a turd sandwich? You know - perhaps you eat off protocol - take the cookies, or chips, or anything you know is not really good for your well being, an then on top of that you pile crap like shame and guilt. The negative self talk we often have seems normal because we do it so often. But take a minute and really write down all the thoughts- you’re never going to be skinny, your butt is too big, you are lazy, you have no willpower. Would you want to hang out with somebody who speaks like that all the time? Not likely. If you have kids you may even give them a time out for speaking to someone else like that. So stop doing it to yourself. Put a line in the sand and start giving yourself some self care.

I encourage you to become a compassionate observer of how you look at your life. I encourage you to stop hiding behind taking care of everyone and everything else which derails your attempts to lose weight. You may hide behind the overwhelm of all the holiday activities. Perhaps you look at the plate of desserts in the office and you “feel” like having some. Take a moment and recognize the difference between what you want (health and wellness as you lose weight) vs. what you may “feel” like in the moment (dopamine hit - escape from stress - eat the desserts). It is your responsibility to take care of yourself and when you make that a priority you have so much more to offer others.

Start making the choices for what you truly want you start to build confidence in yourself. When you observe yourself making good choices give yourself a high five! Start building your confidence in all areas of your life and as you continue to show yourself you have your own back you will truly believe you are in control. Instead of going to bed at night thinking of all that went wrong - give yourself a little wink in the mirror before you lay down, and recognize that you gave your best to the day, and are ready to bring it again tomorrow. Try it out - if you don’t like it you can always go back to the negative talk but I promise you one thing - self confidence will be so much sweeter than any dessert you could ever have.