How To Become Unstuck in Your Life

Remember that song Hooked on a Feeling?  Back in the day I simply loved the beat of the music, but these days I am high on believing how important feelings really are.  Every single thing we do in our lives is because of how we think it will make us feel.  The same is true for why we don’t do things as well.  In our culture we often think we should always feel good, but that thought actually causes more pain than you realize.  Here’s an idea - what if it is OK to feel uncomfortable, what if its ok to feel any negative emotion?  Guess what - it is part of the human experience, and the sooner you accept it, the less buffering with food and wine you will do, and in the process you will see you can totally handle any emotion.

Our brain is designed to seek pleasure, and there is a lot of money made on pleasure - the pleasure of food, pleasure of drinking, pleasure of spending, pleasure of porn, pleasure of purchasing.  The brain is also designed to avoid pain.  This combination is what leads so many people to buffering with things like food, and wine in order to feel better, and avoid any painful emotion.  The thing is, the resistance of the emotion in itself causes more pain.  If you are able to allow the emotion you take authority over it.  When you learn to allow an emotion you open yourself up to growth.

An emotion is simply a vibration in your body when you have a thought.  An example may be you have a thought that you are presenting at an important meeting tomorrow, the thought causes you anxiety - possibly you feel a little tightness in your chest or throat.  In order to avoid feeling anxious you grab a glass of wine, or piece of chocolate.  The wine is the dopamine hit your brain is looking for and now the cycle continues because you have rewarded the brain to think this is important to survival.  When you continue to avoid or resist your emotions you become stuck in your life.  

This week I encourage you to start paying attention to your feelings.  Become the observer and start describing how you feel.  Becoming more aware of what you are feeling, and deciding what you are willing to feel, will be an important skill as you work to take your life to the next level.  You can survive any emotion.  Imagine this - years ago there wasn’t wine and chocolate available to make us feel better - and we all still evolved.  Where you will take your life deciding what feelings you want to be hooked on?      

Each week I offer 2 free mini sessions, first come first serve, to women who want to drink less, and end the negative chatter in the morning.  Sign up here to discuss how my program may help you feel more in control of your life.  Once you sign up you will receive a call in number and appointment reminder.  Some may not be a fit, and that is fine - I consider it a privilege to offer free help in advance.