The Most Important Step in Gaining Control over Food and Wine

Remember that song Control, by Janet Jackson?  I’m totally aging myself by such a reference, but I like the line - “It’s all about control and I got lots of it”.  So often I talk to people who struggle with over drinking or over eating and they feel so out of control.  I want you all to know you do have control “to get what you want”.

I did a little “clickety clack” to the Googles to find the definition of control.  The first one that came up was “the power to influence or direct people’s behavior or the course of events”.  Now, let’s really break this down.  If you have the mindset the wine or ice cream,  has control or over you, they must be some pretty special bottles and pints to “direct people’s behavior”.  The ice cream and wine just sit there.  I know it truly feels like we don't have control, and sometimes it seems like the temptations are “calling” us, but really - they can’t dial the phone, and they have no vocabulary.  (Dial - there again - tell-tale sign of age).  This is fantastic news because it proves that we are in control!  

What has happened is, there has been a way of thinking for years.  In the book Evolve Your Brain, Joe Dispenza discusses the science behind thinking the same thought, which produces  the same chemicals in your body and you have the same feelings.  Eventually, what we think and feel becomes our way of being, and turns into unconscious thinking.  The way to break this is, to become more aware of your thoughts.  Start taking a moment to pause and recognize when you think the wine is calling you.  Take a moment and recognize you are physically going to get the lovely glass.  You take the steps to open the bottle and pour it.  You take the time to cheers with your loved one, or to the dog if that’s the only other being home.  You must take all these actions in order to enjoy.  

Know that you can change the way you feel about it all.  It’s almost like that old boyfriend you thought you wanted, but knew deep down he wasn't entirely right for you.  You got over him just fine - you can get over this too.  Once you start taking back your own power you will see that it’s not the wine, or the food, that is keeping you stuck.  It is your thinking you don’t have control.  Once you start shifting that you will feel so much better and begin to take the actions you need to evolve.  Like Ms. Jackson says - you don’t need to rule the world, just wanna run your life.  

To those of you familiar with the song - I do apologize if it is stuck in your head like it is in mine.  

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