How People Pleasing Makes You A Liar

I just read a stat, according to the National Retail Federation, that 18.2 billion is spent on Valentine’s Day between flowers, cards and candy.  That is a lot of loving folks!  Love is an intense feeling of deep affection, and often given more freely to others over ourselves.  Go crazy this week - love on yourself a bit and see how amazing you can be when you have your own back.  

Think about it - when do you show yourself compassion? We are often so hard on ourselves, and constantly compare ourselves to others.  People spend a lot of time trying  to get people to like them, saying and doing what they think others are looking for.  We often put extra pressure on ourselves to abide by actions made up in our head about how we should act.  Sometimes this can get creepy and weird, other times it is just a lot of extra brain energy used up.  Honestly, at the end of the day everyone gets to think what they want to, and when we try to manipulate what others think about us, we ultimately manipulate what we think about ourselves. 

Somewhere along the line people lose their own opinions.  Take a moment to consider what you really like about the people around you.  Often times people are not even quite sure.  When you aren’t giving yourself enough love and approval, you often look outside of yourself to get it.  When someone does show approval you do whatever it takes to continue receiving it.  Always working to please others can be exhausting.  And quite frankly it becomes a lie - instead of asking do they like me - look into the question of do you like you?

This Valentine’s Eve I encourage you to really take a look around.  Fill your life with people who will be excited for you, applaud your accomplishments, and still love you madly when you haven’t accomplished anything that day.  They should make you laugh and cry and genuinely feel alive.  Don’t settle for less - take the time to love yourself and surround yourself with those who truly love you best!

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