What Happens When You Don't "Feel" Like It?

I'm sitting in the quiet of my office waiting for everyone to wake up, and on the couch our rescue pup Tucker is all cozy snuggled up.  My brain says I should just relax with him for awhile.  I don't think I'm really "feeling" like doing work.  I'm sure you've had those days.  Here's the thing friends - part of making our way to accomplishing our goals is overcoming this.  You take action despite not feeling like it. 

We are good at procrastinating things that give us long term pleasure - think of losing weight for example.  How often do you tell yourself you will start Monday, or you don’t feel like exercising today.  If you are cutting back on drinking maybe you say - I’ll do it next weekend because there is an important gathering this one.  We are terrible at procrastinating at things that give us short term pleasure - holding back for example on getting that dessert at dinner, or extra glass of wine.  If we can change this around we can create the life we keep dreaming about.

When you procrastinate you may tell yourself you do better under pressure, or at the last minute.  Really what happens is as you get closer to the deadline your thought changes to one that drives the action.  You get a lot of things done in a short amount of time.  This only works when their is a deadline.  So if your goals are more general - drink less, weigh less, you may never get to that point of pressure.   

My teacher, Brooke Castillo, sometimes makes up words, and in this instance I think it is important to share this one with you.  She encourages us to work from “pro-active-ation”.  This is the opposite of procrastination, which is to delay, and instead  encourages being proactive on purpose instead of relying on fear and pressure to drive us.  When you operate from this state you make plans and execute them no matter what.  You get your work done and still have time on the back end to be sure it’s on time and completed to your standards.  Here are 5 tips to help you become more of a “proactivater”:

     

1.  Make a plan to produce results.

2.  Schedule it on the calendar in chunks.

3.  Follow the plan like you mean it - everything is DUE on time.

4.  Enjoy always being done ahead of time.

Now that this is done, I’m off to enjoy some time with the niece and pup - hope you have a fantastic weekend as well!

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