Mama Said There Would Be Days Like This

Mama said there would be days like this.  I’m sure you’ve all had these days - seems nothing is going to go right, and it’s not even 8am.  I don’t think of myself as a negative person by any stretch of the imagination, but sometimes we are seeping with subtle negativity and we blame it outside ourselves.

Subtle thoughts like I don’t like that, I’m too busy, I don’t have enough time, I’m tired, this is a shit show, or he’s annoying may contribute to it.  In order to feel better we need to focus not on what we don’t want, but instead on what we want.  It is important to remember the brain is always scanning for what it believes.  So if you are thinking your job is making you crazy, your brain will find all the evidence to support that, which will really make you crazy.

If there is something we don’t like, or a problem, we typically spend most of our time complaining and talking about the problem.  We complain, judge and express all our opinions on why something doesn’t work.  A different way to think about this is to instead state the problem once, and then take all the rest of the time to discuss the solution.  By doing this you engage a different part of your brain that is creative and wise.  If the brain believes something is good then it will search for all of that evidence.

The great news is you have the choice.  Looks like I’ll be working on a lot of solutions today!