Who Is the Biggest Loser In Blame Game?

So often we are guilty of playing the blame game. You know - the times when "if only" that other person did something differently you would feel better. For some of you that world would exist if that coworker did her job correctly, or if your partner took out the trash on time. But imagine if none of those external controls were really the source of your feelings.

If you are blaming others for how you feel you literally have give someone else responsibility of how you are feeling. Blame is always disempowering to our emotions. Think of it this way - if someone else is responsible for how you feel, you have to depend on them if you want to change the way you feel. That doesn't seem like a winning proposition.

There is a difference between assigning responsibility, and blaming. For example, a co- workers lack of effort is why the task wasn't complete - assign responsibility. However, blaming them for how you feel is where there is confusion. You are responsible for how you feel and that is the best news ever. You are always responsible for your own feelings, and everyone else is responsible for theirs. You don't have to change anyone else in order to feel better.

Imagine a life where you don't blame anyone for how you think, feel, act or for any of the results you create in your life. How could your life be different? Really consider this, and then decide the blame game is over.