The Struggle With Drinking Against Your Own Will and How To Be Happy

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The women I work with struggle with feeling as if they are drinking against their own will.

Meaning, they feel like it is just a habit.

It is.

You know the saying "an old dog can learn new tricks"?  Well, so can some pretty intelligent women 😉.  You can change the habit.

You may not be sure if you want to quit, or just cut back.

Either is fine.

Here is a tool that may help you decide.

Take some time today and really think about the pleasures you have in life.  Make a list of the things you do to experience false, intensified, temporary pleasure (over drink, over eat, drama, etc).

Now make a list of the things you do to experience natural, temporary pleasure (take a walk, read, bath, workout).

Make a list of things you currently do to perpetuate long term well being (learning, accomplishment, relationships).

What do you notice about these list?

Pay attention to those activities that give you a net negative effect (physical and mental).

Do you spend your time and efforts on purpose, living the life you want to?  Or, are there changes you would like to make?

Your primitive brain will be telling you to just keep well enough alone.

Step up and bring the managing part of your brain into this discussion.

Be curious and compassionate to the answers you are getting.

Trust me - if you haven't already realized - beating yourself up never has an upside.

You are in control.  You get to decide if you want to make changes.

If you want to learn more I just opened additional free coaching spots until 5.31.18.  I would love to speak to you more - receive some free confidential coaching, see how I can help you, and learn more about my program,  no obligation.

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