This Is The Best Way to Drink

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Our brains are so fascinating.  When you do this work and become more aware it is amazing what you find!  For so many of us, the reason we drink is to avoid a feeling.  Most of the women I work with want to cut back, and even when they get to their goal they will want times to make exceptions.  The key is learning not to react or respond to a presented urge, but rather to use the prefrontal cortex to plan these exceptions at least 24 hours in advance, make a commitment to yourself, and stick to it.

If you are working with some of the tools I've shared in the past, I want to give you another for these occasions.  I recently used the Exception Tool myself.  I don't love Mother's Day.  Now don't get me wrong - I love my mother and mother in law, and am so grateful for all they do.  I have the utmost respect for moms.  But I'm not one.  So for me, Mother's Day is just that reminder, and I decided ahead of time to make it an exception day.

Here are the questions to ask yourself: 

Date of Exception.

 Why are you making the exception?  

 Action plan on exception day.

 Consequences you are signing up for.

In my example I knew I was having the wine to buffer any negative emotions of the day.  I knew I would not feel super energized the day after.  Honestly, once you do this you really question if you want to go through with it at all.  Use the exception tool to remain in total control, decide on purpose what you want to drink, and how you want to live!

Let me know how it goes.      


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