How To Stop Being So Busy

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Do you wear the "Busy Badge of Honor"?  The more I learn about being "busy" the more I'm working on deleting the word from my vocabulary.  Everyone's definition of busy differs, but the one thing it has in common is at the end of the day it is simply an optional thought, and one that really serves no upside.

I have clients that talk about coming home after a "busy" day and needing a drink to unwind.  Keep in mind - what is busy for you, may not be busy for me, and therefore is a mental construct.  It is simply what you are thinking - "I have to to get x,y, and z done", "After work I need to get dinner and the kids", "My list of things to do includes..", "I'm so busy with everything going on around me".  

Being busy does not mean you are being productive.  I encourage you to pay attention this week.  When you find yourself thinking about how "busy" you are pay attention to how you  feel. Overwhelmed?  Stressed?  Confused?  Typically when you are indulging in these types of feelings  you are not taking action.  You are either going to sit in confusion because you don't know where to start, or you are going to try to multi-talk - which in itself never truly works.   Neuroscience research shows this is actually "task switching" and although the brain can be fast in switching, it makes for less productivity in the long run.

So what do you do?  

Plan.  I talk a lot about developing a drink plan with my gals that are looking to cut back on alcohol, or food plans for those looking to lose weight.  This is just as important as planning your time.  You want to set your brain in a direction that it can focus with intention on what needs to get done, or how many drinks you will have tonight, or what you will eat.  Be precise when you make the plan.  For example - if it is a work project or house cleaning - how long will it take?  Decide in advance.  Set the time limit.  Get it done.  I find examples over and over of when I give myself a certain amount of time to get something done, put my brain to work, and voila - like magic it is done.  Honor that plan, no matter what.

Lastly, you will be amazed at the freedom you gain in knowing there is a plan, sticking to it,  and accomplishing your goal.  In fact, you will find more time in your day because you won't sit around in indecision not knowing where to start.  You will end your day feeling more confident knowing you put it all out there - planning on purpose, and not wasting a minute.  As you continue to build the relationship with yourself, and honoring your commitments, you will be amazed at how you truly can create the life you imagine.  

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